And yet, "crashes" it just under the Christmas tree is often in the families. Gone then is the dream of a harmonious family gathering. How does this happen?
The hustle and bustle of Vorweihnachtstage culminates on Christmas Eve. Everything should be perfect, the gifts wrapped beautifully, the Christmas tree decorated nicely, prepared the food delicious.
The typical situation has determined each of us have experienced, "Wife" relies on that "man" gets just the tree in the stand and beautifully decorated. "Woman" comes from the kitchen into the living room geflitzt sees "man" comfortable in his chair, sitting, looking at his Christmas tree decked. You: "The tree is quite wrong and there is missing the crocheted angel of Aunt Bertha and the candles are all so wrong!" He: "The tree is not wrong, and the candles do not go straight and the stupid angel I find anywhere! " You: "Sure, everything is wrong and must be the angel on the tree when Aunt Bertha comes after!" He: "Then do it` s better if you can! "Woman rushes into the kitchen, since it already smells suspiciously burned . The kids even call from their rooms, "How long does it take for now" "man" comes from living room: "Where are the gifts for Grandma and Grandpa" Woman: "Have you not as packed? They lay it down in the closet. " Man: "How would I know then," And so I could spin the story infinitely more. . . .
is done until everything, there is stress.
And year after year.
And every year we take the right to make it better next year.
Tip: Take a little time, let the others wait quietly shortly. Go into a quiet room on the balcony or in the garden. Concentrate on your breathing, breathe deeply with open mouth and with a (too loud) sigh bursts again. Think of something beautiful, only briefly, but nothing else. Smile at consciously! Now breathe a few times well. Then go back to your family and you'll notice - you are more relaxed.
Go with the family to church, plan for the holidays walks , and consider whether all visits must be paid to the Christmas season. Between the holidays still have time, aunt, uncle and godfather to visit. De-stress your schedule.
you will find a lot of understanding when you say again "no" to visit the Christmas holidays. There others feel the same. Only no one dares to depart from old patterns. Get started - at least in the planning for next year! One can already together on changes to the Christmas schedule and talk.
But now I wish you all a merry and happy Christmas!
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